The Holiday Blues

Dear Not So Merry,

First, thank you for your honesty. Many people feel the same way you do, but don’t admit to the reality of their feelings. The truth is, sometimes life is difficult - even in December; mostly in December for some.

The trouble comes when we compare our inner reality with everyone else’s highlight reel - the matching pajamas, the picture-perfect family gatherings, the beautifully laid table. Real life is rarely that neat. The truth is joy isn’t something we can manufacture on command; it’s something that visits when we make room for it.

This year, give yourself permission to step out of the performance and off the stage. Light one candle instead of ten. Listen to music that soothes rather than jingles. Say yes to what comforts you and no to what drains you. You may find that when you stop chasing “merry,” quiet contentment begins to appear.

Joy often starts small — a warm cup of tea, a phone call from a friend, a kind word exchanged with a stranger. Those gentle moments are enough.

Wishing you a peace-filled holiday season!