How to Impress a Woman

Wine her, dine her, call her, hug her, support her, hold her, surprise her, compliment her, smile at her, listen to her, laugh with her, cry with her, romance her, believe in her, cuddle her, shop with her, and lavish her with beautiful diamond jewelry.

I admit I added the last one about lavishing.

Every now and then, I publish this to remind gentlemen how fortunate (and for some, how unfortunate?) we are to have found your soulmate and best friend for better or for worse, until death do you part (My wife has sort of threatened me a time or two with this death do you part thing a bit prematurely).

It’s been said the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. I believe a new boat or vintage car could also do the job and yes guys, diamonds and jewelry are still a girl’s best friend. Gifting her vacuum cleaner or another household item could speed up that til death do you part vow.

I don’t expect any gents reading this to enact or perform every verse to the letter - that would only make the rest of us look really bad in comparison - but then again just doing even only a few on the list will create the desired effect and make her notice or who knows even impress her?

I’m no expert in the ways of love and romance. I am a jeweler/goldsmith and have pleased and brought joy to thousands of women. I see how their eyes light up and even shed tears from receiving a nice piece of jewelry. I will admit I enjoy the compliments and accolades that come with a job well done. 

The creation and selling of jewelry to the public was for many of my years, and still is, the way I made a living. Then, as the years rolled by, I finally realized that jewelry was far more than just a tangible item and that a diamond ring was not just a piece of carbon and a band of gold. Even a simple silver cross and chain that belonged to a loved one who passed has more meaning and purpose, and that’s impossible to replace, no matter the cost.

Presenting jewelry as a gift to a loved one is as old as history itself. It was usually gifted for a special occasion; it could begin as a simple silver friendship ring, pre-engagement, a diamond engagement ring, then a wedding band to an anniversary gift. Then comes the gift for a first child, a sweet sixteen milestone, high school or a college graduation gift of gold or silver and the cycle continues. Every piece of gifted jewelry that is worn usually brings joy to the beholder and is thus cherished. Jewelry signifies the progress as one walks through life.

The same goes for men who strive to acquire the ultimate life achievement gift ... a Rolex watch.

It’s a shame nowadays that for many guys acquiring a gift of jewelry, say as a holiday or anniversary gift, it has become a hassle or an inconvenience (I thank the heavens not all guys! There are plenty of caring and compassionate gentlemen I’m fortunate to have as customers). I blame the current overall lack of love and compassion on the way our current society looks at things and acts or does not act at all, for that matter.

Many of us have certainly become hardened by what we see and what goes on nationally and worldwide day after day. I don’t want to point out any one thing and commit political suicide here, you certainly can’t disagree with me that things are not all sunshine, rainbows, and butterflies.

You don’t have to worry too much about what’s going on today - by the time the next day’s news cycle emerges, you will forget all about what happened yesterday. 

Will things ever change? I hope so. I still inquire during a jewelry purchase if it is a gift for a special someone or if it may be a piece of feel-good jewelry someone bought for themselves to brighten their day. It also brightens mine! 

So, as far as I can tell, chivalry is not dead ladies. I have many regular gents who buy their significant others a random “just because” piece of jewelry.

Try taping the first paragraph of this column somewhere where he will see it and see what magic will ensue.

Gold …What can it not do or undo?William Shakespeare