Finding Your Place

Dear Cramped, 

Sometimes we just gotta do what we gotta do to not feel physically OR emotionally cramped. What would it be like to move forward, find a suitable house or apartment, invite him to see it with you before you make any final decisions, then, assuming all hell doesn’t break loose, sign a lease for a place that works for you? Taking a bold step might be the jolt he needs. 

It sounds like he’s not against moving, but he’s also not motivated enough to pursue the idea. Have you tried asking questions like, “What do you like about this apartment and what don’t you like?” Or “Where do you see us in five years?” Share your thoughts as well and keep the conversation light. Perhaps this will help him buy into your vision of a larger place to live. 

If motivation in general is an issue, stop doing things for him that are his responsibility. Let the box sit in the middle of the living room, allow the garbage to pile up, demonstrate your need for space by taking up the dining table with a craft. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.  

Life’s too short to spend it cramped and miserable.